Communication is incredibly important. It allows us to create and maintain emotional connections. It allows people to help others when they are struggling and need some support. It allows people to resolve conflicts without force. It allows people to share their observations, feelings, thoughts, needs, and requests. This helps people understand problems in detail so they and others can work cooperatively to create solutions that they will be happy with. It allows people to negotiate in ways that enables everyone to have a happy and productive resolution.
General
- Human communication
- Cooperative communication vs Adversarial Communication
- Affect Labeling and Mirroring Emotion and Attunement
- Accountability
- Charisma
- “Why” is dangerous to use sometimes
- Emotional Intelligence
- Storytelling
Relationships
- Conflicts
- Bids for connection
- Connection
- Family members
Work
- Accountability
Children
- Hearing them and Talking to them
- Bullies
Golden rule, platinum rule, etc.
YouTube Channels
Non-Violent Communication
- Giraffe NVC (Marshal Rosenberg’s) – Channel – https://www.youtube.com/@GiraffeNVC
- CupOfEmpathy – Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@CupofEmpathy
- NVC Training Sessions 1-9 Marshal Rosenberg Nonviolent Communication – Playlist: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GZnXBnz2kwk&list=PLPNVcESwoWu4lI9C3bhkYIWB8-dphbzJ3
Effective Communication
A dump of notes for effective communication. Will structure later.
NOTES
Why people communicate: Share information, explore ideas of their own, explore someone else’s mind, work on articulating their ideas better, convince or persuade, trolling. Convincing is a bad goal most of the time. Exploring ideas with someone explores your own mind and the other person’s mind and helps you articulate ideas better which helps you understand your own ideas better. It also helps generate new ideas.
Accidental interruptions and justified interruptions are understandable. The issue is that people seem to think that their interruptions are justified when they are not.
Necessary to be semantic and at a minimum understand the terms the other person is using.
Define terms at beginning if at all possible.
Be aware of terms that are being disagreed on.
Define terms when you notice they are not agreed on.
It’s not just definitions that are disagreed on but their interpretations.
It’s not just definitions that are disagreed on, but the logic that is thought to be operated on in the conversation or within the other person’s paradigm of thinking.
Don’t derail. Stay on track.
Don’t interrupt – You are not a mind reader. It’s easier to know what a person has to say if you allow them to actually say it. You can’t show them that you are listening if you don’t listen to their full thought.
Don’t use emotive language against the person or position you are speaking against. It has not intellectual content. Use neutral language if possible.
Don’t use ad hominems.
Don’t strawman. Do steelman.
If you don’t understand what is being said, say so, otherwise they will go forward thinking that you can follow along but won’t be able to. Tell them you do not know what they are trying to convey when they say xyz. Follow up with something like “Can you please elaborate or rephrase?” It’s important to know if you should be asking for an elaboration or a rephrase. Sometimes there is not enough information within the statement so you ask for an elaboration. If you don’t know what is being said then you can ask for a reprhase. If you don’t know which will work, ask for both.
It seems that when a person speaks fast that when they take a pause to think about something that people assume they are done talking and can inject themselves. It seems that when person speaks on the slow end that when they take a pause to think about something that people assume they are still going to talk and wait.
Just because someone cannot articulate what they mean by something doesn’t mean that they don’t have a conception with meaning.
I think it would be interesting if there was a word in the English language that was made specifically to indicate you were done with your statements.
Related vs Relevant.
Sorry, I was distracted.
Sorry I lost focus.
Sorry, my articulation was poor. Whoops
Acknowledge voices trying to pop into a conversation.
Preference falsification maybe?